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I just don't know what to do.

Me and my boyfriend have been dating a year, or, should I say would have been dating a year on March 24th. I had wrote down the day we started to date, something I never ever do for anyone, but this relationship seemed special. After all, he was a good friend of mine, a secret crush, and many other things before we started to date. But, anyway. I started to fall in love with him..Over time. It was a huge mistake, he fooled me. It turns out when he told me he loved me, hugged me, kissed me..It turned out he never meant any of it. It was all just an act. He had been cheating on me, with more than 1 girl I should just say.. He broke my heart, once again. Before him I had dated a total loser, my ex, who cheated on me to. He played me, etc. And is still a jerk today. I'd told my boyfriend everything about him, he acted as if he understood. That's how I became to trust him more without cheating on me. When I found about the girls, my heart tore. I didn't understand, yet once again. I broke up with him, feeling SO stupid.. He acted like that if I left him, I would be hurt, and stuff. And he wouldn't get hurt at all. he acted like it was all my fault, etc. My friends weren't much of a help, they'd all just tell me to forget him, move on. To just try harder. But they obviously don't understand..Losing someone you thought you knew so well that you loved them.. When I think about it, atleast a month ago we were together, telling eachother we love eachother..And the way I felt. I feel empty and lonely all the time now, not seeing how someone could be as cruel enough to play with someone elses heart. I always have these feelings that if I gave him another chance..He wouldn't do it. But then I know he would, once a cheater always a cheater. The way I feel is weird, it's like my heart says yes..But my head says no. No one is giving me any advice on what to do, how to forget him.. I'm just so confused.

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Permalink Reply by ashley on January 21, 2008 at 1:11am

i know how you feel, best way to cure a broken heart is to find someone better. keep yourself busy, time can heal as will. Ask yourself, "do you really want to go through it again?"

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Permalink Reply by Halinda on January 21, 2008 at 2:38pm

Hi I know what you mean honey.I had a boyfriend like that,we got along from time to time. He did no twork well he did some.He lived with me for a while.He would take money from me ,I told him not to be in my house when I got home from work. That moring I came inside my home,there he was.I asked him how and why was he in my house,Why did I say that?He hit me and I will not let no man hit me. Because if a man have to hit a woman .you don't need him at all.He was arrested.Laster on down the road we stared seeing each other again.But he never hit me any more,he knew not too do that again.So what Iam saing to you move on just datefor now.That is just how most men are players.He miss you just don't give in.

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Permalink Reply by Caley Moore on January 26, 2012 at 8:59pm

I agree with you, I mean give him another chance and see what he does. But, make him work for it. Make him beg for forgiveness. If he doesn't, he's not worth it.

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Permalink Reply by Hope Lopez on May 28, 2009 at 10:20am

I agree with you, ashley... Finding someone better... but will you always do it when someone breaks your heart?

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Permalink Reply by Sarah Lee Waddell on September 11, 2010 at 8:54am

i agree. the best way is to find another guy and time does help. but dont get that cloes to him inless u can truly trust him that he wont hurt u.

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Permalink Reply by althea on January 21, 2008 at 12:41pm

well, what you need to do is, meet new people. dont let urself doomed in the four corners of your room. learn new things. acquire a hobby. love comes in the most un expected time. you'll be surprised, the sincere one is just around, waiting for the right time...

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Permalink Reply by charisse francine on January 24, 2008 at 4:38am

all i can say to you is that just like to your friends move on...and dont close your heart for someone better for you..you just save from a wrong one..

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Permalink Reply by Princess on February 4, 2008 at 12:30am

Girl take it form me move on with yur life. I was married and my husband left me for someone else. My divorce was just final in May of 07. We where together for 3 and a half years, and married for only 6 months. At first u will feel denial like maybe he will change and come back to me. then depression. But it's only a matter of time when u will realize he missed out on a good women which is you. Just Pray and ask god to help u get through the heart ache and pain. And next time pray for a good man who is faithful to god and he will be faithful to u.

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Permalink Reply by Sunil Singh on February 7, 2008 at 12:40am

Hi,
U need not to think more on this topic. Hav u seen Jab We Met, just do like Shaahid Kapoor ok. I'll giv you 2 choices. If u hav any stuff of him so just throw them, or u call him nd say slangs like kareena did in Jab We Met. OK......... I am sure u will feel gud after this.

Sunil

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Permalink Reply by stephy on February 14, 2008 at 11:23am

well in sorry to hear what has happent to you.. i could say that i know what your feeling and its the worst thing that a person can feel ...a broken heart...this also happend to me with my ex. the storry is this . he went to jail and i was the only one that helped him he was getting convivted for something that he says he didnt do, i loved him so much that i helped him i got him a lawyer and paid 5,000$ to help get him out well i was with him the whole year he was in jail, never once cheated on hin went to go visit hin every saturday. and the day he got out he wanted to have sex and i told him that i wanted to wait till we got married witch was like 2 mnts away. well it turned out to be that this guy that i loved so much , that i invested so much of my time and money ended up cheating on me with another girl and got her pregnent....it hurt bad but i tought to my self hes not wurth my time and my love..and you know what you need to tell your self that to . you will find the right guy just wait and let it come to you dont go out lookeing for love its better wen you dont expext it and with time your brokrn heart will heal and like they say carma is a bitch he will get his... what ever you do in this world good or bad you always pay for it.... remember that ...and keep your head up...

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Permalink Reply by Paula on February 16, 2008 at 7:34am

I am soory for your heart break.
THE WORST THING YOU COULD DO RIGHT NOW IS FIND SOMEONE ELSE. You would only be using them to prove to yourself and the the ex that you are moving on. It hurts. It hurts bad. but it will get better. It takes time. During that time you need to look at yourself very honestly. There is something about you that seems to want these jerks.
Take time to focus on what it is you have to offer any future guys. Are you smart, talented, honest, loyal, funny, financially responsible, neat and clean...etc
Are you immature, boring, broke, sloppy, and all you have to offer is sex?....etc.
Be honest VERY HONEST with yourself. Then next time you feel yourself being attracted to someone, be honest about what they have to offer. Are they kind, HONEST, financially responsible, neat and clean, caring to other people.......what do you want him to be? Make your list. Don't seriously date anyone who doesn't come to the table with what you are looking for.
Meanwhile, be proud of yourself for having a head that tells you not to go back with this guy.
As you begin to see him for what he really is, it will get easier.
Be good to yourself right now. You deserved better than this.

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Permalink Reply by Halinda on February 16, 2008 at 4:56pm

Yes you deserve better.Because if you really not his type he will dump you.I have been seeing this man for four months now.We just see each other once a week.So I don't really know what kind of relationship we have.Because he says that we don't see enough of each other so I am willing to go vist him.He is a business man and I understand that he has to go out of town from time to time.But he can't take out a few hours to see me.Somethings got to give.I mean I'm a one woman's man.If I'm seeing someone I see that person and only that person.So what dose he want with me?If he can't see me but when ever he wants to see me.