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Blind in love?

I have been with my boyfriend on and off for 3 years. He has a son with his wife, yes they haven't gotten a divorce yet after 3 years. And i have 2 other children by another man and a 5 month old daughter with my boyfriend. I love him dearly, but I feel like he still has feelings for his wife. He says they haven't got a divorce yet cause of the money. I have read text messages from him to her about a year ago that were sexual. He said he was sorry and nothing would happen. Maybe 2 years ago he sent a pic of his privates to his wife and said he was meaning to send it to me. Him and I split up about 5 months ago and i heard him talking to her on the phone. He said he had fun on his birthday but they can't get back together. Well, I found out that him and her just hugged on each other and danced together I guess, but he ended up leaving with her friend to take her home and stuff happened, but we weren't together. Should that bother me? I haven't done anything with anybody else! We just got another place together. I want to make things work since we have a baby together. I ask him not to talk to his wife unless I'm around, he did good for a couple days, but yet again messed up. Any advice would help. There is so much to the story it would take forever to write.

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Permalink Reply by margarette espanol on July 5, 2009 at 7:30pm: loving someone is a total sacrifice, you have to give everything and conquer anything that comes, but you always have to live something for your self because you can never love anybody if your not around. if your boyfriend is still messing with his wife then you already have to decide, if i were to ask i wont stay with that man any longer. even if we i have a child with him. we love because we wanted to spend our affection to the one dear to us, we love because we wanted to care, we wanted to make everyday special and we love because we wanted to have the same thing in return. so if he's just bringing trouble in your mind that it even bothers you let your mind control the game. it's just a piece of advise yet still at the end of the day you have the last say.goodluck.. i wish you the best!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by dimples fate on July 5, 2009 at 9:53pm: i think he is still attached w/ his family,you know they have a child already,,,
Its better to talk to him wats going on bout your relationship,frankly said to him if he still have feelings for his wife, & accept the consequences it may take,,its better to know the truth than to hear lies,,,love is really complicated...maybe he doubts also bout your situation on wat to do bout you & his family,,,just try to talk w/ him wats buzzing on ur mind,,
you cant stop him communicating w/ his wife, coz they have a son already,on his part his makings things out for his son,his obligation as a father,,,i think he still loves his wife for some reason that he cant stop seeing her around,or qwe dont dont if his motives of talking to her is about his son...
Just talk to him ,& dont nag w/ him,,,show him that you love him & try to understand his situation,,,,communication is the best things to clear out the troubles w/ in ur mind; ▶ Reply to This