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Permalink Reply by Nicky on September 7, 2010 at 1:41am

Its sad girl... Each body has to be responsible for his/her actions and because of our choices life takes us in the direction we decided. Trust is one of the main building stones in any relationships and if there's no trust you can put it on the dust. As from my viewpoint this relationship is over. The sooner you accept that the better for yourself. The two of you are only draining each other emotionally. If there's more negativity in a relationship than joy and love its not worth the try and carrying on.....

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Permalink Reply by miya flores on September 8, 2010 at 1:11pm

Hi nicky thanks for the reply..I already broke up with him 1 week ago.It comes to a point that I felt exhausted.But this week after the broke up seems more hard for me..I am the one who make the first move to still communicate to him.One time I ask him if we can still fix but he said he needs time to think and he wants to be alone for now.You know what, it really kills me.Thinking that he is willing to give up all what we been through for seven years. I don't know what to do now if I'm going to stop everything or still hope that one day he will realize everything.

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Permalink Reply by jack baur on September 9, 2010 at 3:08am

hi miya, you seem like a nice girl, you made a mistake & you showed him how sorry you were for it, its up to him to try & get past it, if he cant, you have to let him go, you cant be punished for the rest of your life for one mistake, just start again & forget about him, im sure you'll find someone who make you happy, theres no point being with someone if ure just making each other miserable,

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Permalink Reply by leigh ann on September 9, 2010 at 11:50am

so sad miya..but u know, we have something in common..i also had a relationship for almost 7yrs (only 2mos to go) but the difference was i didn't cheat..he is the one who cheats on me..how many times he did that but i kept on accepting and forgiving him coz i love him that much..really it's not that easy for me to put my full trust on him coz of what he did but i tried..coz i dont want to lose him..it's easy to say that u still trust him watever he did but its not..i feel in my heart that i cant trust him in full anymore and my heart is right..coz for me if TRUST is gone u cannot say u still love him/her..TRUST is also main reason of LOVE..no trust no love...

so for me, don't make ur life hard for u especially now that u are far from him and if he is not doing something for that relationship so just let him go gurl..its not worth it...u already suffer & prove to him ur love & fight for ur relationship but its not good for u if he is not doing anything for ur relationship..gurl WAKE UP! its time for u to grow..its time for u to be happy..right guy will come to u in a right time gurl..

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Permalink Reply by Natlely Goh on September 10, 2010 at 9:25am

I think u should really consider doing things that make u happy^^
My boyfriend cheated on me with his ex girlfriend n I find that I couldn't trust him anymore.But I fought for it and found that actually, although sometimes v make mistakes,there are good chances that v could always mend it.
However,in ur case its totally up to him.Do stay happy dear.

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Permalink Reply by miya flores on September 10, 2010 at 4:47pm

guys thanks for ur advice..its really hard to be in this situation,im so exhausted to hold on but im too in love to let go..ur right guys its really up to him i already done my part,I believed i fought a good fight,I totally humble down myself just to save evrything.maybe i will just give time for both of us to realize if this rel will still work,and at the same time prepare myself to whatever result it may bring..Thank u for all the help,yup i will try to stand up now,help myself to regain everything...

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