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Why is love so complicated
I am in love with a friend of my husband, I don't know what to do. I have children, he has too. I never ever thought that I would ever cheat but I am. My lover is in a common-in-law relationship that isn't going so well. Sometimes I wish I can go public with it. I love my husband but I am not in love with him if you know what I mean. I was once told that in these kind of relationship you never end up with your lover. I wish I can.
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Permalink Reply by Alicia on -
Thanks aNNa~chaN for your reply, but it so hard to leave him. How can I do it I don't know
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Permalink Reply by Ami on -
Alicia,
You have the right to be happy, but think about it, you were once happy with your husband, work hard to find that happiness again. The grass is not always greener on the other side. The friend seems attractive right now because he is the unknown, he is a break from your current stress, he seems to bring the vacation w/out the drama.
Think long and hard about this, make sure it is worth the pain everyone will endure because of it. You are not the only one that will get hurt. Talk to your husband tell him how you are feeling, ASK HIM how HE is feeling, people focus so much on themselves they forget to check on their partner.
I wish you the best Alicia
Ami
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Permalink Reply by margarette espanol on -
hi..just think of your kids before you decide don't be selfish. you children will be the ones to suffer if you will continue your affair with that married man. another thing more that man is a friend of your husband and he has children just like you. i think you are matured enough to be wise with the decision you are about to make. one last thing i don't think that you are truly inlove with that married man you're just attracted and not inlove those are two different things. think of it.
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Permalink Reply by Carina on -
Hi alicia,
in your case as a family woman, dont you think it is better to put first your family than anything else, it will be big trouble not for you but also for your family and the family of the man.
Sometimes we intend to find love and affection to other people rather than to our own family or husband, because we like to feel something new.
But sometimes all we need is to look for what is in there not what we like to see in there.
Try to go out alone, find a place that is peacefull and calm, go to a place that no one can disturb you, and think so much, look on both sides, think of the things might happen in the future.
Think of the best thing that you have in your life,
Think of your past memories with your family.
Then after giving yourself time to unwind, talk to your husband and tell him the truth, and try to work things out.
Coz nothing in your married life is more important than your own family and children.
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Permalink Reply by aNNa~chaN on -
u have to forget abt that guy!!!
u sed it ur self u have a family right now!!!
for the sake of the children dont do that!!!
x0x0
anna♥
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Permalink Reply by aNNa~chaN on
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mhmmm..focus ur self on ur family..wenever u see him always think abt ur family dnt think abt on wat u feel abt him..i knw its hard but u have to do that..
x0x0
anna♥
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Permalink Reply by Nina Star on -
The only person who knows the answer to this is you Alicia... but you do have some things to consider. How long have you been with your husband? How old are your children? Can this maybe be worked out through counselling? I think sometimes the truth hurts but forgiveness is possible. Think about how much you've shared with your husband throughout the years and if the marriage is worth saving. If it's not, then you need to leave for not only his sake but your own as well. There's no use in torturing yourself mentally by staying with someone that you're not in love with. Just don't expect to be with your current lover if it's the case though. Men are known to cheat but they never leave their wives for another woman.
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Permalink Reply by salman haydar on -
i cant understand that how could u do that u ever thought if your husband knows about ur relationship then what he do my personal advise is u stop ur love i know this is so difficult but u do bcoz u are married and u have one children also think about ur children future ok bye
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