Is it alright to fantasize while your married, I sometimes do this to get through the parts of the day that get boring. I would never ever cheat on my wonderful husband, he is the most wonderful man, hard working, a Super Dad, when I see my husband playing with the children, makes me fall in love with him all over. As a lover he is OK, I don't like having to ask for affection, it should come spontaneously, thats why I fantasize, but it only leaves me feeling frustrated, cold showers don't work, Its not his fault, but he's not able to perform as well as he use to. I'm not sure, but does prostate problems make a mans sex drive low? I know being married for 12 years, we both get use to a comfortable way of living, and that's alright, but I still need affection. Thanks for listening, Share any comments.