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Love struck Confused.

After a four day weekend with the boyfriend and his family, I feel like I'm missing something. We had an amazing weekend with his family. His family is great to me, for there I am so thankful! He's a hard person to understand though. Most days he will tell me he loves me a thousand times, others he seems distant. Recently he just got out of treatment and moved two hours away from our home town, seeing him is hard as hell, goodbyes are even worse. I've been having these crazy dreams involving him abusing me? He has never once laid his hands on me. He tries to avoid any fighting at all. In other words he's impossible to fight with. He and I both grew up with divorced parents and constant fighting with parents. Would this affect why he just walks away instead of fighting it out? I became really homesick over the weekend just waiting for monday to come, he seemed kind of relieved himself. Its been awhile since we have actually been around eachother every second of the day for continious days. I've been home for about 2 hours and He's called twice. Our goodbye was kind of crappy. No hugs just a kiss and barely an I love you. I miss the way we use to be, it just seems we were so much more in love. I asked my sister about it, because his dad and I got to talking and he said we have a weird relationship because we dont neccessairly act like a couple. We are not the clingy type where we constantly have to be touching and reminding our love, we can wrestle and make fun of one another as if I was one of his guy friends yet we never fight. He was texting me up to this point and I told him I looked up my dreams and they said I was overanalysing our relationship and was worried he was going to leave me after his weird behavior. All he told me was the quit looking at that shit and he was going for a drive so would talk to me later. I just dont get it. Times were good and I feel so lucky but its like when I'm home and he's there I get nervous, and anxious for our next visit.

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Comment by Haley on July 8, 2009 at 10:00am: thank you so much. we have both been through treatment for drugs and alcohol now. we have decided to stay sober and he has moved away, making our relationship long distance. he has just bought me a puppy for our new home.

Comment by Kelly Morris on July 7, 2009 at 10:07pm: I dont know what kind of treatment he underwent but, usually these thigs are really hard becasue the person who went through treatmenht is totally different and no one expects that. Maybe encourage him to let you know what he knows has changed and open up about it. Maybe he is scared that you wont accept his changes, so he is distant

Comment by Nina Star on July 7, 2009 at 7:43pm: I think you know deep down that you might be overanalysing the situation and your relationship with your boyfriend too much. I don't know much about your past but it sounds like you've been burned (like most of us) a lot in the past. Unfortunately, some people have been burned more and you sound like one of them. Trust is key and I don't think you're always giving your boyfriend the benefit of the doubt.
Not ALLLL couples are all over each other. I think the ones who are the most comfortable with one another are actually the ones who don't show as much public affection. You don't need to show off what you have because you know it's real.
That being said, the fact that your boyfriend doesn't remind you every second of every day that he loves you or thinks of you doesn't matter. When he DOES tell you, those times will be very special and you'll remember. Someone who repeats the same thing over and over again becomes like a monotone. But if he tells you sweet things at specific times that mean something... then all the better.
I think you can work out these problems... just mention to him that you like when he's affectionate. ;) Maybe he doesn't realise that you're missing his words so much. Good luck! :D